wedding crashers

"Wedding Crashers, not the 2005 movie but the actual and literal meaning of the term means an un-invited guest at a wedding. Well most of the times weddings have multi faced guests whom you don't want to see. There are these ex's like the old girl friend or a old crush from school. The man you slept with for the first time or the woman for whom you had danced naked on a bar table. Most of the times your mother-in-law and your father-in-law are too considered as uninvited guests. But these are not the ones being discussed in this article, we are talking about a stranger or alien element of your wedding." ( love sessions 2009)







This clip is obviously from the movie "Wedding Crashers" . Untill I just looked up the definiton for wedding crashers I did not think that you could be a "crasher" by just being an uninvited guest showing up somwhere. When I think of a wedding crasher I think of someone who ruins or just completley destorys a wedding. I guess if someone was real picky about who comes to there wedding, seeing someone you dont know could make you mad, but I dont think it would completley ruin your big day.

I dont think that wedding crashers like Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson do to crash weddings is necessarily bad because they just go and pretend to be people related to the bride or groom somehow and try to hook up with random girls acting as if weddings make them emotional. Technically they don't mess anything up in fact according to the movie the guest have a lot of fun with them there.

court house weddings start and end in court

Recently I have been hearing about people just wanting to go to the court house and get married because it seems appropriate at the time with there situation and then later on down the road renew there vows doing a "real wedding"

I was curious to see what people thought about court marriages and this is what I found..


"After over 10 years of officiating weddings at the courthouse, I stopped. Put simply, getting married at the courthouse is a rotten experience.

Sitting in the hallway with lawyers and probations - possibly for hours - is neither fast nor romantic. Courthouse weddings also are not cheap.

Marriages that start at the courthouse - end at the courthouse.

The divorce rate for courthouse marriages is over 80%. More than 4 out of 5 marriages that start at the courthouse will end at the courthouse. The courthouse is where you go for a divorce, not a marriage.

How long will a courthouse ceremony take? It depends on when the judge has time to see you. That might be minutes, hours, or "come
back tomorrow."

Candidly, many couples go to the courthouse wanting a fast, cheap, and easy marriage ceremony. But that probably is not what really will happen. Nor is getting married to be treated like a dentist appointment.

Getting married can be fast, easy, cheap - romantic & fun. For less cost, time and effort, you can have an elopement without dressing up or fuss - BUT that also is romantic. easy, cheap and memorable. " ( DFWX.com 1998)

I read a couple of different articles and I just kept seeing over and over that court house weddings are just not fun to do because your big day is over before you even get to blink your eyes. You dont have to spend a ton of money on a "real wedding" if thats what peoples biggest worry is. It is your day and you can spend and do whatever you want on your wedding day.

wedding coordinators can do it all!

I had to write a paper about my future career which is a wedding coordinator in a class. I found some very interesting things about this career that I did not know, like how much responsibilty comes with being a wedding planner. For example when planning someones wedding you are a:

facilitator

mediator

money manager

artisan

organizer of all parties concerned

"Wedding planner can do everything from arranging a budget to remembering to bring white bobby pins for the brides veil. Duties can include setting up appointments, offering etiquette advice, mailing invitations and recording responses, coordinating the decorations, negotiating contracts, and attending to many other details. However, many planners also set their limits as to what they can and cannot do. One wedding planner I know draws the line at writing the thank-you notes. "(Fulbright 2009)

Not only are wedding planners taking care of people's weddings, but since they are

entrepreneurs they also have a business to run and have to make sure they keep up with thier own budget let alone all the other weddings they are trying to do. The biggest thing is trying to start your own business and getting that good reputation to attract customers.

Wedding coordinators can make a decent amount if they have a good reputation and if they are in the right area. The way wedding coordinators charge can vary depending on how you want to. For example :

1.You can charge depending on the percentage of the wedding cost

2. Flat fee of 10 to 15 percent of the wedding budget. Since the average wedding using a coordinator costs about $15,000, your earnings may run from $1,500 to about $2,000.

3. Hourly rate ranging from $50 to $150 per hour. According to many wedding coordinators, the average wedding takes about thirty-to-forty hours of coordinating, which ends up costing between $1,500 and $3,000.

If you work 30 weddings in a year at 1,500 each wedding you can average about 45,000 a year. you can increase that if you open your own business and sell accessories or rent tuexedos and other things like that.

The wedding planning business is seasonal the traditional busy months are October, September, June and August.

As we all know the Internet has its postives and negatives, but we can't live without it so were going to have to deal with it. Nomura, Rumiko in "The Internet Today: Causes and Effects" points out the postives first in her article

1.get the latest news on the Internet
2. it is changing the concept of organization or system like a nation, an ethnic group, a company and a network of people
3.it helps connect people
4.you can express yourself.

Then Nomura goes on to show the negatives
1.copyrighting other people’s things and using it for your own
2.subversive material posted online
3. hacking
4. how the Internet is full of junk.

There is not much you can do about the negative things, but to be aware of them !

The Internet is so useful, you can do so much on it if you think about it; you can "shop online, do business, file applications, budgeting, check book balancing, etc. The rapis speed of the Internet also draws people in, the luxury of not having to travel to the library and with a click of a button have exactly what you are looking for without looking through pages and pages of books." (Goessl 2002-2010)

All of this is very convienient, but with all this comes drawbacks; "security or crimes such as identity theft, hacking or embezzlement. One of the main drawbacks is whether or not society has become too dependent on the Internet. If the Internet was permanently severed people would not know how to take care of some of their necessities. " (Goessel 2002-2010)

The computer does all of these things for us and really if you think about it makes us lazy. Like Goessel says what happened if something happened to the Internet alot of business would have to hire alot more people to do work that the computer usually would of done, everything would have have to be done by hand for the most part.

I obviously am using the Internet right now to blog and I can admit I dont know what I would do without the Internet, but all im saying is we cant forget traditional ways of doing things.


This article by Goessel is called "Effect of the computers and Internet on society" just in case you wanted to read more in depth on this.

The Internet is used so much today the number of users just continues to increase! I mean if you really think about it how much of your time is spent on the Internet? The traditional ways of getting the news by newspaper and the t.v are not very popular anymore. Why would you go out and buy a newspaper when you can quickly get online and see the lastest updates with the click of a button?

According to Daily Source The. The Growing Impact of the Internet. (2005-2010)
The Internet is by far the primary source for accessing news. The numbers of users continue to increase each year. A total of over thirty million American get news via the Internet. The reliance of the Internet for news is spiking, for example after 9/11 3% of users said their primary source was the Internet. A year and half later with the war in Iraq, 26% of users were using the Internet for access to the news.

After reading this article I don't see media ever becoming a "tradtional" way like newspaper and t.v because I cant even think about what could be quicker and easier then the Internet. The Internet will just become more and more advanced.

Internet Addiction Disorder eh?

Internet Addiction Disorder sounds kinda of funny to me because when I think of a disorder I think about ADD or ADHD something that is wrong with you.

According to Bursten, Julia & Mark Dombeck.Internet Addiction (2004). Internet Addiction Disorder is becoming compulsively dependent upon a particular kind of stimulation to the point where obtaining a steady supply of that stimulation becomes the sole and central focus of their lives. Some “symptoms” to this disorder would be ...

1)thinking about the Internet when offline

2)dishonesty in regard to Internet use

3)sadness or moodiness when offline

4)using the Internet as a distraction.

People actually can get help for this disorder as funny as this whole thing sounds, but with the way media is adavncing and how much you can do on the Internet is really that hard to believe that this is a real disorder?

freedom and information= Internet

Have you ever wondered why people like the Internet so much? Well in this blog on Associated Content,called negative effects of Internet usage written in 2006,There are two reasons why people are addicted to the internet; freedom and information. The internet gives people the privilege to do what they want, say what they want and be who they want. When you go online you can say anything you want, you don’t have be someone who you are not. This article continues to talk about how you can pretty much live your whole life on the internet. People take advantage of the freedom of speech online because no one can find out who you are you can say exactly what you feel when you feel it. The Internet also conceived new ways to commit crimes and expressing hate.

While reading this blog it really made a lot of sense, you can live your whole life on the Internet and be whoever you want and no one can really do anything about.

Luxuries of the Internet

The funny thing about wondering about the effect of the Internet on society is that I am finding all these articles online and I don’t think I would of found such useful information if it wasn’t for the Internet , so it just goes to show you how useful the Internet really is and I honestly don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have the Internet because it makes things so easy!

Speaking of things being easy, Effects of computers and the Internet on society by Gordon Hamilton wrote a very nice piece about how the Internet has made communicating a lot easier by using emails , messaging and webcams. The internet has also helped with searching for information, we used to just have to go through very lengthy books to find what we need, but now with a click of a button we can find exactly what we were searching for without extra information to sort through. Hamilton mentions that Internet may have made things a lot easier, but also has caused a form of isolation. This form of isolation could lead to developing reduce ability to interact with others.

I really like this article because it was short and to the point. It stated the effect of the Internet on people' lives ; good and bad.

What is going to happen in our future?

Have you ever wondered what is going to be next in our future with technology? I mean the possibilities are endless with computers and Internet. The Internet affects us in every way, most importantly with our social lives, our jobs, and our entertainment.

This short article Effects Of Computers and The Internet On Society by Shakti Ghimire makes some valid points I would like to share with you .

1. Going online is the new way to communicate with people. To send an email you type in your message and with a click of a button, the person receives it. This is much faster than mailing something.
2. Internets are going to affect are jobs! A computer can do anything much faster than an person can and with the advancements in media people soon are going to be replaced with computers. The world wants things quick and easy , and computers are the answer to that. There is always consequences to everything. Quick and easy vs your job?
3. Why would you want to manually deal out cards and have to clean them up after? When your computer can deal out cards in a click of a button and you have nothing to clean up. This is exactly why people use computers and the internet for entertainment. You can gamble, place bets on horse races, watch movies and listening to music online.

People can do all of these things without having to get in their car and waste gas by driving around trying to find entertainment. People are content with the fact they have entertainment right there in their homes.

"Behind every silver lining.. There are problems."

A majority of people have the advantage of having the Internet and pretty much looking at and for anything they want. The internet is the most convenient way for “Schoolchildren to receive help with homework, investors can keep track of stocks, sports scores and statistics are just a click away for fans. These are but a few of the myriad ways people use the Internet.”
But according to the article The Internet: Boon or Detriment to Society? By Rob Purdy on the other hand “Behind every silver lining” “there are several problems associated with the Internet. It allegedly opens the world to everyone, regardless of race, creed, sex, etc. But despite lowering costs of necessary technological equipment and the advent of Web TV, not everyone can afford to go online.”

Another problem it mentions is being “addicted” , its called "Internet Addiction Disorder." Dr. Goldberg said IAD is not a recognized medical addiction like alcoholism, but "more like an out-of-control behavior that threatens to overwhelm the addict's normal life."

The place where I got this information is kinda an old article, but it sounds like it has valid information in it.

Internet Relationships

Since lately I have wondered about how the internet impacts people, I have been finding the most interesting articles. I found this one article called Personal Relationships: On and off the Internet by Jeffrey Boase and Barry Wellma. It talks about how having the internet can have advantages and disadvantages with being able to talk to people on-line instead of face to face.

For instance:
(1) As internet communication is largely distance-independent in use and cost, it may
support more interactions with a greater number of spatially dispersed network members.

(2) The asynchronous nature of the internet, in which senders and receivers of messages
do not have to be online simultaneously, also supports interactions at great distances and
among people with different temporal rhythms.

(3) The rapidity of internet interactions as compared to intermittent face-to-face meetings
and phone calls may foster a high velocity of interpersonal exchange, sometimes ill-
considered.

(4) The reduced social presence of the internet may limit its ability to support emotional,
nuanced and complex interactions.

(5) The text-only nature of almost all internet messages can reduce perceived hierarchies
as gender, social class, ethnicity, age, etc are less visible.

(6) The absence of direct visual or audio feedback in internet exchanges may encourage
more extreme forms of communication, sometimes called flaming. People may input
messages to the screen that they would never say to another person palpably present in
person or on the telephone.

(7) The ability of email to be forwarded to others supports transitive, indirect contact, as
when messages get sent to friends of friends. This aids the exchange of information that
cuts across group boundaries. Such crosscutting ties link and integrate social groups,
increasing societal connectivity.

(8) The ability of internet messages to be sent to many people simultaneously allows
people to remain in contact with multiple social circles.

(9) The internet’s velocity, transitivity and multiple message characteristics indirectly
connect the wired world in six steps or less. Yet, there is significant decoupling in social
networks. Hence, information diffuses rapidly through computer-supported social
networks, but neither universally nor uniformly.


You think this is interesting, this is only the beginning of what they talk about. If you want to read more! CLICK HERE

Could people live without internet?

I have realized that being a college student now, I have spent a lot more time on the internet then I have ever before in my life. The internet is a very useful tool and if we didn’t have the internet, the libraries would be a lot more popular. Then I started thinking that actually now a days a lot of people use the internet much more, like for emails, looking at news, to look up pretty much anything. This was really interesting to me, so I decided to look around and find out really how much people use the internet.

I found this article called INTERNET AND SOCIETY:A PRELIMINARY REPORT by
Norman H. Nie and Lutz Erbring. The paragraph below is pretty much a summary with questions that they answer throughout the article

“Over the last five years, the revolution in information technology (IT) has resulted in innovations that are having increasingly visible effects on the life of the average American. These developments affect not only how people work, but where they work, how much they work, or with whom they interact face to face or electronically. Will future workers continue to share physical proximity with their colleagues, or work largely alone wedded to digital devices with occasional electronic mail or voice communication? What will these changes mean for social trust and social life beyond the family? Will the growing trend of working at home with the aid of IT help strengthen the family or add to the intrusion of the workplace into the home? Will it reduce the hours people work, or increase them by infusing work into every sphere of life,
devouring leisure-time and family-life? And how will the Internet affect the role and use of the
traditional media?”

Is the Internet destroying the society?

The other day I stumbled upon an interesting article. This article was titled Social Capital and Information Technology by Marleen Huysman and Voler Wulf.

This article talks about the positive and negative effects of the Internet on people's lives. Some positives it mentions is that its a fast and an enexpensve way to communicate with people. The internet gives people a way to be involved in groups and pursue their interest. One of the negative effects it has on people, is it draws them away from thier family and social lives.

These are just one negative and positive it has within the article, but as I was reading the whole thing it really made a lot of sense and made you realize that the Internet has its disadvantages and advantges on the society. It was really interesting to read about.

Are you compatible?

The last question is compatibility...These seven compatibility factors are what you should look for to see if this person is the right "fit" for you.



1)Personality: do you get along with this person or are you silenty irritated by how they act? Personality is the most important factor and the hardest one to change.



2)Communication: Is one of you indirect or direct? Does one of you do most of the talking? Is on of you the silent type? Think back yo your conversations and see if they flow or are enjoyable to you.



3)Friends and family: Do you get along with their friends and family or this a source of stress in the relationship?



4)Health and Nutrition: Are you a health food nut or a junk food junkie? Is the only excercise you get channel surfing? See if your health food lifestyles match or not.



5)Finacial: Are you stingy or careless with your money? Money is the thing couples fight over most often. If you deal with your money the same it will be very helpful in the long run.



6)Educational: People tend to feel more comfortable if they have similiar life experiences, profesional opportunities and world views.



7)Intimacy) Does one of you like PDA and the other doesnt? Does one of you like to hug and kiss in public and your date may think its completely wrong. Having a mismatched style may caue resentment causing a problem in the future.

Do you trust your partner?

In my previous post when I talked about the three questions you should ask yourself before getting married, one was do you trust your partner?

trust is very important in a relationship, it is one of the most important ingredients in building a intimate relationship with your partner. Some ways you can build trust is by always working on your communication skills, take responsibility to express your need, be positive and give pleasure,dont allow issues to get unresolved and fight fair.

If all these are done, you will have no problem trusting your partner. If their is no trust in a relationship you feel like your partner is trying to control you. Say you are wanting to get married and you ask yourself the three questions from my previous post and you come to the trust question and say well we can always work on that after we get married. Next thing you know you're married and that trust never got very strong.

This scenerio is a little exagerrated, but if that trust is never there and you or your partner go out to get some milk from a store down the street and they take long then they should, you most likely are going to be asking questions about where they were and why they took so long?

trust along with love is the bedrock to a relationship

lets talk..

In my previous post I talked about three questions you and your partner should ask yourself to see if you are ready for marriage...I want to talk more in depth about the communication part.

Communication is very vital in a relationship. If you can't talk and listen to each other , is the relationship going to go anywhere? No, because neither one of you will know how each other are feeling.

When talking to your partner you should not use "you-statements" which is whenever you are talking or arguing with your partner you point the finger at them and start every sentence with you. I-statements make everything go more smooothly. They are for example if you are fighting you could say "I feel like this when you do this" using I statements doesn't make the significant other want to get all defensive because you aren't blaming everything on them.

because you are in love do you get married?

You may have read my title to my blog and said well duh !why would'nt you get married if you were in love?

but the fact of the matter is today one of two marriages end in a divorce and as much as that breaks my heart to hear considering I want to be a wedding planner and the last thing I would want is for the couple to get divorced right after, but on the bright side more weddings for me to plan !

If there is no companionship in your relationship, there is no backbone and that marriage will not last long at all. when getting married to someone you need to ask yourself three simple, but yet complex questions...

1. are we compatible?

2. do we trust one another?

3. is there communication in this relationship?

The answers to these questions holds the outcome to whether or not your marriage will workout if you do get married. You need to have all three of these factors to have a long last marriage. These factors build a strong foundation. Its just like a house for example if the foundation is not very stable or dont even have a foundation at all to hold it up, its going to eventually collapse !

house built with no foundation

house built with foundation

what to do ?

Wedding can be very stressful to plan because their is so much to do and brides just feel like they have no time after they set the date of their wedding. Disagreements may come up between the families, the bride and groom , the bride and mother and so on because everyone has a different piont of view on things.

scenerio 1. reception

You and your friends all like a great party, but your mother thinks drinking is wrong and does not want alcohol at the wedding.This is an area where a compromise can be made. Your mom maybe less worried about people having a glass of champagne for the toast and more about the younger guests getting too rowdy, so you can agree to only having wine at the reception and then after the reception the newlyweds and thier friends can have another party afterwards.

scenerio 2. wedding dress

Your mom wants you to wear her traditional long sleeve wedding gown with her strand of pearls but you want to wear a trendy modern dress with crystal bridal jewlery. You want to feel beautiful on your wedding day so you should wear what you want to wear, but you also dont want to hurt your mom's feelings so you can agree to wear her pearl necklace with a mix of the jewlery you want to wear and you can wear a little jacket with your dress during the ceremony.

scenerio 3. Money

Budgeting is always hard to do when planning your wedding, after the dress, flowers, etc you spent over $1000 or more in a blink of an eye. If your parents are paying for your wedding which the brides parents are usually suapposed to or atleast help and the amount they want to spend does'nt see like nearly enough for what everything you wanted , you are going to have to budget your money so it does fit around that amount because you cant ask your parents to spend more money then what they want to. If you want to spend more money you might have to use money out of your own pocket.

These are just a couple of scenerios that involve conflicts when planning a wedding, the list could go on and on, but in the end after its all over and done with its all worth it!

love holiday

On saturday I was lucky enough to work a wedding! I get so excited when I get to be apart of work a wedding! It was Dr Hubbard's ( our last president of the school) daughter's wedding to be exact. She got married on the third floor of the boardroom. It was a very simple wedding her colors were a light pink and white because of Valentine's Day. The tables were set up with white clothes and pink napkins. She had about 75 guests. I watched the ceremony it was very short and to the point. Some people like it like that and their is'nt anything wrong with that either.

After the ceremony they had a toast then we served them a salad first, then their main dish which was this beef stuff rolled in bread with mushrooms , fish, and asparagus. Then dessert which was a velvet cake. I found out something I never knew which was that at weddings the typical slice each piece should be is 1inx1in ..THEY WERE SO TINY!

Another thing I noticed right away was that the bride did'nt even have a wedding dress on, she had like a ladies suit on I guess is what you would call it, it was a black skirt with a white jacket. It was elegant and I think it looked good on her. It went with the type of wedding it was. Also her finacee saw her the whole time before the ceremony,but like I have said before you can do your wedding however you want to because it is your day.

Usually what happens is the bride and groom cant see each other untill the bride is walking down the aisle and what I have heard is that the first time you see your finacee cry is when he sees you walking down the aisle, but that is something I have just heard.

BE A TRUE GENTLEMEN!

I have been noticing that I have been talking about brides a lot latley so I figured I would switch up and talk about the grooms!

Now boys the sweet gesture to do when you find that RIGHT girl is to ask their father for his daughter's hand in marriage.

Here is a a guideline leading up and asking your ladies hand in marriage without being so nervous you're sweating bullets!

1. Talk to your girlfriend first. Before you go and sit down and talk man-to-man with your potential father-in-law, make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page as far as the whole marriage thing goes. Is she ready to commit? Does she even want to get married? If so, how soon does she want to get hitched? You don’t want to get your girlfriend’s father’s blessing to marry his daughter, just to have his daughter turn you down when you propose.

2. Try to meet him before you ask. If it’s possible, try to meet your girlfriend’s parents a few times before you decide you want to marry her. While my wife and I were dating, I had the opportunity to visit her parents on several occasions. I got to know them rather well before we got engaged. It made sitting down with her dad and discussing my wish to marry his daughter a bit easier because we had already established a relationship. Again, not all situations will allow this, but if you can, do it.

3. Sit down with him man-to-man. There are several ways you can go about this, and I think it all depends on what kind of man your girlfriend’s father is. Consider taking him out to dinner or going to a bar or coffee shop. Breaking bread with him might make the situation a bit more comfortable. If that’s not a possibility, during a visit just ask if you can speak to him in private. If her dad lives far away, try to time the conversation for a trip home which has already been planned, perhaps during the holidays. If this is not possible, it’s okay to conduct the talk over the phone.

4. Start out expressing your feelings for his daughter. I think the best way to start off the conversation is to express to the father your love and admiration for his daughter. Tell him how much she means to you. Mention some specific qualities that you love about her. He raised her, so you are really complimenting him at the same time.

5. Explain your wish to marry his daughter. Now it’s time to cut to the chase. Explain your wish to marry his daughter. Assure him that you understand the seriousness of the commitment and that being able to spend the rest of your life with his daughter would make you the happiest man in the world.

7. Promise him that you’ll take care of his daughter for the rest of her life. Put yourself in this man’s shoes. He’s been the man in her life since she was baby. He’s taken care of her since she was in diapers and only wants the best for her. He wants to know that he’s handing off his little girl to someone that will take just as good care of her as he has. Make the commitment that you’ll always honor, respect, and cherish his daughter.

8. Respectfully ask for his blessing. Now, just request his blessing and support in you asking for his daughter’s hand in marriage.

If your girlfriend’s father has died, wasn’t around when she was growing up, or is simply a jerk that his daughter avoids contact with, ask the mother.

"happy" marriage

As I was searching through the New York Times to find this story about a gay couple and how they wanted to get married , I came upon a link about about gay marriages and then on that website I found another link that looked interesting and so on. I finally stumbled upon this site that was called gaymarriages.com I clicked and and was just looking around the site.

As I was looking through this site I saw they had a tab for planning and my whole reason I wanted to talk about gay marriage was not to say whether its right or wrong , but if they plan their weddings the same as a male- female wedding. I dont think that male-female marriages have a wedding planning book, but im not sure.

I found that same sex marriage have a book though and one of them is called The Essential Guide to Lesbian and Gay Marriages. You have to actually buy the book to see what it is all about, but you can press on it and it gives you an outline and the really the only difference in planning that it talked about that would be different to male-female wedding planning was "How to be gay in a straight world" ,"How to tell your family" , "Same Sex Marriage" "Dealing with Gay Business" and then all the rest of the chapters are about the normal guest list, invitations, catering, vows, etc.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1555834841?tag=gayweddings07-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkCode=as1&creativeASIN=1555834841&adid=0QEF436ZND4WXKBACJWD&#reader_1555834841

Abby & Laura

As I was searching through this site, some of my questions got answered about who would be the girl or the guy ? who will wear the engagement ring? etc. I read this story about Abby and Laura and people would ask Laura why she wears the ring and Laura said "Abby wears the ring because it looks so beautiful on her , and she wears it for the both of us."

Someone else asked who was the girl in the relationship and Abby replied, " We're both girls silly ! We're both bossy , which is why we made up our own rules for this wedding."

Both Abby and Laura will be wearing white wedding dresses and Abby said that Laura could wear sneakers.

So really it does not matter what you do, its up to you, it your preference just like it would be in a male-female wedding.

Imagine how it would feel to have your spouse PICKED out for you?!?!?!? I know I sure would'nt like it! I mean to marry someone I didnt want to be with would be just torture. In some countries such as Iran Iraq, Afghanistan, Japan and India they arrange girls marriages and have to marry the men that the father picks out for them. In our country its love before marriage and you only need love to be happy, but in the countries I named above they feel as if arranged marriage will endure forever and love for the time being can just take the back seat.

for more arranged marriage facts you can go to this site --> http://www.professorshouse.com/family/relationships/arranged-marriage-facts.aspx

Bride Wars

One reason I chose this youtube video is because this movie is called bride wars and its where I got my title for my blog because I'm doing a modern vs tradition weddings. Also in a previous blog I talked about the borrowed, old, new and used tradtion and in this movie one part one of the girls mixes the other girls hair dye so her hair turns blue.

will you marry me?

Anytime I see that someone is engaged or married I ALWAYS almost ask how did he propose? I love hearing how creative the guy was.

The way my cousin got engaged was he brought her to his back yard and in his back yard he has a pond and had two fishing poles set up for each of them. He had the string pulled out and the hooks dangling down almost touching the water because when ever she went to pull her fishing pole up he had a sign on the hook that said will you marry me? I thought that was so adorable and creative of him.

Another fun way that I was done was my friend and his finacee were going to a fair and on the way up there he had his friends standing on the side of the road each one holding a sign up make the question will you marry me ?

This is a picture of some rides at the Ozark Empire Fair in Springfield, MO they were headed to right before he proposed

I was talking to my friend who recently got engaged on Christmas and she said the way he did it was he had a huge box and then had another box in side that box and so on untill it came down to the ring box and when she opened it he asked her! AWWW!!


I think all of these ideas are pretty modern because its the way the guy wants to do it. I think the traditional way would be at a restaurant during dinner, I dont think there is anything wrong with that way, but it is what is most commonly done.

old.new.borrowed.blue

When you get married a fun tradition is to wear
something old: symbolic of continuity
something new: good luck to the brides future
something borrowed:borrowing something from a happily married wife to carry that happiness to your marriage
something blue: blue means faithfullness, loyality and purity

The past couple of weddings I have gone to , the brides had no idea about this tradition so I figured I would inform people about it because I definently want to wear all these on my wedding day! I have alwways known about this and it surprised me when my friends didnt.. I thought everyone knew about this tradition but I guess not..

Traditions around the world

I was trying to find a quote, considering we were assigned to have one in our blog this week but stumbled upon something interesting.... traditions for weddings in different cultures! For example:

African -Americans: Since African - Americans slaves were not permitted to get married, they would show there love by jumping over a broom to the beat of a drum.

German: The bride will carry salt and bread in her pocket to ensure bounty and the groom carries grain for wealth and good fortune

Polish: For a town wedding; friends weave a crown of rosemary leaves symbolizing remembrance for the bride.

Turkey: Before the bride walks down the aisle she asks her single bridesmaid to sign the bottom of her shoe and then after all the dancing at the end of the wedding , whoevers name is faded the most will get married next.

I thought that the turkey one was the most interesting out of all those...

After reading some of these traditions, I laughed because some of them are kinda stupid, but now that I think about it.. one tradition we do is the bride turns around and throws her bouquet in the air for all the single girls to catch and whoever catches is supposed to get married next.

Then a tradition for the groom is to either take the brides garder off with his hand or his mouth( depending how frisky he is haha) and throw it in the air to all the single guys and whoever catches it is supposed to get married next.

I bet if other cultures read that as one of our traditions, they would think that is quite weird also!


I got these tradtions for a wedding magazine called The knot.. there is alot of other really cool stuff on the site so if you would like to look here is the link

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-customs/articles/9-favorite-wedding-traditions-from-around-the-world.aspx

Dream it.Plan it.Live it.

Wedding have always been intriguing to me especially when it came to planning my own. When I was just a little girl around ten years old , I was always thinking about how I wanted my own wedding. I decided to draw on a piece of paper how I wanted everything for my wedding. For example how I wanted my dress, shoes, veil, husband tux , the colors for my wedding etc. you name it I thought of it. Whenever I went to Walmart with my mom I would sit in the magazine aisle and just absorb every bit of information from those wedding magazines I possibly could to be able to make the wedding of my dreams. My first wedding I was able to attend I was sooooo excited to be there. I looked at every detail of the wedding from the most obvious decorations down to the design on the flower girl's shoes. When I was asked to be in my friends wedding this summer , I actually saw and was apart of everything that had to be done for the wedding and I LOVED it!!!!!Movies about wedding are of course my favorites like The Wedding Planner, Bride Wars, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, 27 Dresses etc. After watching those movies and analyzing everything about them, I started realizing not only could I plan the wedding of my dreams, but help other people plan the wedding of there dreams! This past summer I had the opportunity to cater at weddings at a lodge! I went to so many amazing weddings and I just loved the atmosphere of it all. Who would of thought when I was ten years old fantasizing about how I wanted my wedding to be on a piece of paper, that I would be where I am now, in college with a major to become a wedding planner. Thank goodness for childhood dreams right?

rain rain go away..but please come back on my wedding day!

Todays weather is so gloomy! This kinda weather always ruins everyone's day it seems like!

I figured since it was raining all day and everyone thinks rain is annoying and puts everyone in a not so happy mood, today would be a perfect time to talk about a superstition about if it rains on someones wedding day.

When it rains on your wedding day, its good luck!!!


It comes from many cultures, mainly from Hindu with the idea that a wet knot it harder to untie, since marriage is often known as tying the knot. Rain was also a symbol of fertility to agricultural societies, since rain restored and maintained the wellness of crops.Crops were peoples main source to stability and income so it was thought to guarantee a long and happy marriage!


so you may not like the rain now, but you will if it rains on your wedding day =)

I <3 weddings

For my compositon 112 class we have to blog about something that is interesting to us. Something that I have always been intrigued by is weddings. Every since I was little I would always write down how I wanted my wedding and would look at wedding magazines any chance I could when I went to the store with my mom. Whenever I got invited to a wedding, I would be there in a heart beat. I always loved seeing the different set ups of each weddings and watching how each wedding was done. I'm going to school to be a wedding planner and cant wait to start my career. Now that you know how much I love weddings its obvious what all my blogs are going to be about! =)